To BE Or Not to BE

"To be or Not to Be"- this was not one of my favorites from Shakespere. But the title is the story of my life...Why everyone's life. I recently met with this confusion in some school children, deciding their future. Don't we all go through this?

But these confusions are O.K, compared to what we have been going through these days. There are quiet a few videos, which states that "doing this will improve your life" & after a while the video contradicts what was told earlier. Oats was considered good for your health & a good breakfast food. But now, the same is not so good. 

Coconut was first an awesome food. Then scorned upon, now, again it is gold. Similarly, with the eggs. I can go on enlisting – not only the food products, but also the cleaning materials.

Seriously, are these people so out of their mind?? They keep finding something against what we do, in the name of research. Or is it that we keep trying to change our lives, looking at the Westerners? Is it that we keep forgetting our habits, the habits that our grandparents & great grandparents followed,  just in the name of “I don’t want to be them”? I never found the now so popular diseases like the Diabetes, HBP, Cancer etc., so popular, in our grandparents’days. Did we?

Whatever, the people born after the 70’s have seen too many changes, for good & for bad. To decide which way to follow is such a big stress point.

I too have this confusion of whether to follow the right way, as the researches mention & keep changing, or to do the Not so god way of ignoring them. But then, now a days, I have taken up a unique way, that is to throw the researchers in the Bin, & to listen & respect my Body. That gives a clear indication of what is good for it & what is Not. I eat what I want to, as long as my body is ready to accept it. It is ready to digest it.

All said & done, life is short. Why not live it the way your heart desires, by giving the respect your body deserves? After all, that is what is carrying us through this life. Following the way the body & soul desires, with regular exercises, should be the best way to lead a lovely life!!

Attitude

Attitude-------I keep hearing this word more & more frequently used these days. Really, when I was young (not that I'm too old now), this word was never heard. Especially, I have not heard people say "you have an attitude". The first time someone remarked this to me, I looked up the dictionary to see if am following it right. I am not so bad in understanding English, but certain phrases really makes you THINK.

Ofcourse, I have an attitude. So does a chair. The attitude defines the character of a person or a thing. I recently saw a video where Rahul Dravid mentions, it is because of Virat's aggressive attitude he is a great player. And the same aggression would not be a good attitude if followed by Rahul, as it is not "his" attitude.

How very clearly pointed out by the Wall! I might be a snooty person, I may be short tempered, I may be an Irritating person. (Doesn't mean that I am all this....just to show as an example ;) ). But that defines me & as a whole, all these individual attitudes, makes the real great person that I am. (Yes, I am really great ;) ).

I still can't understand why people say "You have an attitude". What do they actually mean by that? Do they mean that "I don't like you?" Or "I am scared of you" or "we will not gel well" or "You are really awesome"???

I have to quote this. My mom-in-law, who is not so good in english, once quoted to me "enakku andha manushan oda attitude pidikala maa". Meaning she didn't like so & so's attitude. Very clear usage of the word, with a very distinct message.

So, when people, well educated in English medium says "you have an attitude", what are they actually trying to prove???? I really wish I get a satisfactory reply on this, & an end to my serious understanding problem.

And so....the fight.............continues.........

Oh Wow...its been ages since I last put in a post (I mean the gap before my "Thathasthu" post). I remember pretty well that my last post was about new year resolutions & 1 of my resolutions was to write blogs more frequently......So as all resolutions goes....this too was binned on the 2nd Jan 2014 :d. I never give up on traditions.

Surprisingly, there is 1 little tradition of mine that has been reduced. The one that is called "TEMPER". I am proud of it. At the same time. I feel a little bored. Oh whatever said & done, Temper tantrums do add a certain spice to life.  So the masala of "temper" being reduced both in my official & personal life, I started looking for a similar masala else where & what do I get?????? the masala of "Fight within"!!!

As Kamal Hassan says in his movie "kadavul paadhi mirugam paadhi" (half God & Half Animal), I discovered my 2 sides. 1. The Angel 2. The Devil. I know, I can hear you ask.....You an Angel?????? True, but when you see the Devil in me.....you'll definitely agree I put on the Angel face now & then.

Quiet naturally, being the person I actually am, there are lot of interesting debates, arguments, fights, wars that go on between this Angel & this Devil within me. The Angel in me always wants me to be a GOOD GIRL. Surprisingly, even I would like that. But like a good mother, I should not be partial right? I should give the Devil a chance, isn't it? If, even I don't pander to my Devil's wishes, then who will??? So, now, you get to read a little about my 2 darlings....the devil & the angel & their tantrums.

As I said above, the Angel in me always wants to be a Good Girl. The first thing she wants me to do is wake up early. She sets up the alarm & Suprise....I do wake up right on time, even before the alarm goes.....then the devil wakes up...She says....Come on!! there are still lot more to dream about! Its still cosy..Let me snooze for a while......and then........its pretty late. Round I to Devil :D

My Angel is very clear in her schedules. She puts up wonderful time tables. With diet charts, exercise regimes, clear timings for writing blogs, Oh yeah.....to do every day shopping which I really hate. And to tell you the truth, Angel also wins many times, but yeah the devil wins many as well :(

Leading the Angel's life is the best way, the most healthiest way, the righteous way. But the devil adds spice to the life. A good balance of these 2 is always the best. And to get this balance, is always a fight between the Angel & the Devil. This is one thing that I follow most religiously......As long as the fight is on....the life is on!!!!!

Thathastu....So be it!!!!!

These days, I keep thinking how all our dreams do come true. For lately, my great dream of being an housewife has definitely come true, after so many years. Such a happy feeling. This brings to my mind about the this tagline my mom used to give me whenever I used to curse in my anger. I was a very troublesome child, with a very short fuse. Anything to spite me & my sparks would fly. I would say things like "wait....I will run away & never be your child again" & she would patiently listen & say, "Mind what you wish for! there are these sapta rishis doing their rounds often enough. And they keep granting all our wishes. Every now & then they say "Thathatsu"and bang your wish will become true". As a child that used to scare me & later on, in my middle age, I wouldn't say I forgot about it, but I actually ignored them.

But coming back to the present, I do agree that this Thathastu technique, does work. May be not just the way it was mentioned by my mom, but, as my good family friend used to say, the cosmic powers always work to get your wishes come true. See, I have become an house wife. Seriously, I can't quite express how this so joyful a position for me. Many say..."Housewife????"....I used to envy all the stay at home mom's for the past 10+ years. 

Having said that, being an housewife, has its share of woes as well. After leading a life of being extremely occupied for 16 hrs a day, being just active for a few hours has its drawbacks. Especially after a couple of weeks with a house full of people & then suddenly with just me...My god! I called up everyone in my phone book that day & self invited myself to many people's house. As someone said, when you ask for a gift, it would come with all its wrappings, covers & the likes. What we ask for may just be a book, but it would come with some other compliments, which may or may not be to our liking. 

When we are a child, we always look up to our parents & crave for a dream job. When we achieve  this dream job, there are always the office politics, the dracula bosses, gossiping co-workers, always making us wonder "Why the hell did I ask for this?" Isn't it?

So, do we stop dreaming?????? Never.....

So, do we stop realising our dreams??????? Not at all.....

Whether we get our dreams realised, or not, we will always have nic pics, in whatever field we choose to be. you may be a watchman, a maid, a clerk, a manager, self employed, or jobless. Whatever you do, you have certain responsibilities, based on your capability, which is to be completed, in the given surrounding. No job comes without problems, for if it is, then it would be the most boring job in the world. These nics, these small negativities, challenges us to convert them into positivities. 

I thank all these negativities, all these failures, for from there I have built the courage of being a Phoenix to strike up again & become a better happier person.

Now that I have mentioned that most of our dreams come true, one needs to understand that it is basically ones thought process, that makes it into a dream & make it deep rooted in us to get them realised. Meaning, if we keep thinking bad things, saying "I'm going to fall sick", yes, we will definitely fall sick, if that gets deep rooted in our consciousness. I have a friend who keeps murmuring that  she is so bad in work, that good things never happen to her, people are so bad with her. Oh yeah....it is thathasthu.....as you wish, so you get. More worse your thoughts are, the worse you reap!

So dream on guys!! Have positive wishes all through your lives, & work to bring them to life.

Ensure, all your dreams are good, for, the Sapta rishis would Say Thathasthu......And there it will be granted!!!!