I was spending some time with my lady friends recently and out came the most interesting topic of all women!!!! The "Monster-In-Law" a.k.a "Mother-In-Law". Yeah, every woman, will have something to say against their MIL, however wonderful they are. I have no right to say this, having a wonderful MIL, but this topic never ceases to interest me.
However lovely a mother is, when she becomes a Mother-in-Law, she ceases to be lovely but becomes a NIGHTMARE!!!! So, being as interested as I am, I put my over-imaginative mind to work and started thinking what would be the root cause of this problem and you know what I came up with???? You will never guess......Each one of us, with gender no bar, is a Mother-In-Law!!! yeah, go on, laugh, but I wont go back on this!! You want to know why???? The main reason the tiff starts between a MIL & DIL is "ADAPTING TO CHANGES".
Just think! Put your self in this position. You are the King/Queen of your place. Whatever you say becomes the Bible. Suddenly, in comes a new person, says something new, different from what you would have done, and people who were nodding heads to you, nod differently. How will you feel????????????????????? Don't say"Oh! I am very sensible. I will never say no to changes!" I would say, everyone has something that they are very dear to. And when a change comes in that, they become a Maamiyar (MIL)!!! Oh!! This does not exclude me at all!!! I am a VERY BIG MAAMIAR!!!!
Having established that we all are Maamiar's, let me share with you a few instances where some Maamiar syndromes gave me a laugh!
Maamiar # 1 : - ME!! Me!! me!!! I had some issues with my convention oven. Whenever I tried to use the grill function, as per the book, my oven was getting overheated and always went off to cooling within 3 minutes. It took me 1 hr to get something done, which actually required less than 15 minutes. I kept complaining and took my oven to the service center. This guy serviced it and said there is nothing wrong. Raja kept telling me that I didn't know to use the microwave and he will teach me how to do it!! And my reaction??? "Huh! As if he would know! This man, who doesn't enter the kitchen is sitting in the highstand and talking about cooking in a microwave???? What will he know!!! HUH!!! he has a bloody husband syndrome!!!! And me???? So great a cook!! (ok ok...this is my mind talking) I have to take his advice????? How hilarious!!!! Hmmmmmm" Then one day, I was frying french fries in the oven. it took me about 1 hr to get about 200 gms of french fries done. Then Raja relished it and asked me for some more!! And that too he wanted it immediately. I tried telling him it would take me another 1 hr to get it done. But he was in such a great hurry!! SO.............................I decided to take my chance. I said with a sweet smile "You said you will teach me no??? Why not now? Do some french fries on your own and then teach me??" I was very sure, he would come back in 5 minutes being disappointed and then!!!! I CAN GLOAT!!! WOW!!!!! What a feeling it would be right??? But...........he didn't return in 5 minutes. It took him 10 minutes!!! And he didn't come alone......he was accompanied by a plate of, golden, crispy french fries, very well done!!! AND that too in just 10 minutes!!!!! My heart took a deeeeeeeeeeeep dip!!!!! What a Maamiar I am!!!!!! :)
Maamair # 2 : - Raja, ofcourse!!! Why to spare him?? :D. Raja is very much interested in photography. And he always plans and gets some addition to his kit. He was planning to get a new lens. I am not a great enthusiast about these things and I usually just keep nodding my head at whatever he says. After a long wait, he came to know that there was a sale happening in the Citi-centers and he would be able to get this lens at a huge discount. So while we were going for a long drive, we were passing through Mall of Emirates and suddenly he remembered this discount offer and said, lets go here and get the lens! But I felt this offer was not valid in the MOE and I told him. He looked at me and said "Ranju!! I know!!" It was a the weekend, it was very difficult to get a parking. But, for a lens, at a lower price, why not take this small difficulty?? So within 45 minutes, we found a parking and went to the mall, and attacked shop after shop. After about another 45 minutes, Raja found the exact lens he was looking for!!! By that time, I was really bored and had started looking at what the food courts had to offer. I was just waiting for Raja to finish the deal so that I can take him across to the food court and make him get me some Baskin Robins ice cream. Raja finished checking the lens, got some accessories and he was very happy he found the right one. He went to the counter, and took his wallet calculating the discounted value of the lens. He was so happy & proud that he made a good deal. He kept giving me the "Achiever" smile. Then when he saw the bill, his face crumpled. He said "Why is the discount not applied?" the shop wala says innocently "What discount sir?" Raja had even brought the newspaper cutting where this discount was mentioned, he opened it and showed him, "this one!" Raja was thinking "What!! You think I am mad??" then the shop wala slyly showed Raja the cutting again "Sir! its mentioned here, "Except Mall of Emirates"" By then I was sure I was not going to get my Baskin Robins & so very boldly said "Pondatti sonna kettukanum!!! Purinchudha???" meaning....you should always listen to your wife, understand??? haahaahaa.....maamiar.....maamiar!!!
Maamiar # 3 : - My colleague. This person was supposed to deliver something in Fujairah and that needed to be done in a hurry. He was very unhappy with the timeline that was given to him. He kept grumbling about it to everyone in the office. So, someone came to tell him, "Why are you cribbing so much? there is a new route opened now and you can reach there in less than hour's time from Dubai". This person said "Are you joking? I am driving all over UAE & I know all the routes very well! And you are telling me that there is a new route?? And IF there is a new route, you think you will know about it before I know??? Huh! I will bet my month's salary that you are wrong." Thus the bet was finalized. Next day, this person went to deliver and within 1 hr, another person, who is not aware of this bet receives a call from him, where he says "Sirji, there is now a new route to Fujairah! It takes you only 45 mins to reach from Dubai, next time you go, you ask me for direction ok Sirji?" Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!!!! What a maamiar!!!!
Now tell me, haven't you all experienced such situation atleast once in your life? Moreover, haven't you been a maamiar in those situations????
Jokes apart, in this world, where change is the only constant, all of us go through this "Mamaaiar Syndrome" at some point or the other. But, realising this and adpating best to those changes that happen in our lives, makes us a better person to live with!
Happy Living!!
